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Hello and welcome to "Attitude Is Everything!" We happily
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Attitude Is Everything
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The following information is about the effects attitude
can have on our bodies and minds.
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You Become What You Think
What goes on in our minds affects our bodies either
favorably or adversely. It's been scientifically proven that
beliefs, thoughts and attitudes can alter hormones and
neuropeptide levels of the brain, and the entire body.
Carl Simonton and many other doctors are finding that
people who have cancer have been weakened by emotional and
mental as well as physical factors. He believes that a
person's response to prolonged fear and frustration are major
contributors to this weakening of the body's resistance to
cancer and other diseases.
Dr. Simonton has a simple, common-sense philosophy. He
believes that in order to be or get well, we must be who we
are without repressing ourselves, which leads to fear and
frustration, which in turn can lead to disease, and early
death. He suggests we relax as much as possible, through
play, deep breathing, or physical exercise (if the person is
capable of doing so). The goal is to become quiet and to
feel comfortable and safe. The next step is to visualize and
feel with ENTHUSIASM what you would think, do and say if
perfectly healthy. The last important step is to take
specific action, however small that might be.
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Getting Involved
Studies have suggested the importance of feeling a sense
of purpose and belonging. People who are involved in a
meaningful way tend to have a stronger immune system, which
is the number one protection against disease and illness. It
is vital to feel that you care and are being cared for - that
YOU matter and are seen and heard by others. If you are
presently isolated, freeing yourself from your self-made
prison may not be easy - but it is simple. Get involved - it
may save your life!
First of all, be willing to love others and have a sincere
desire to contribute. Secondly, see and feel YOURSELF worthy
of others love and recognition. It is not enough to feel.
You must ACT! You do not have to become a world famous
orator to be recognized! Start small. See what you can do
for yourself first. Perhaps short-term counseling and or
joining a support group may give you the courage to inspire
you to action. Sometimes reading the words of others who have
accomplished the very thing you're aspiring to do can give
you the "jump start" you need to get going. There are plenty
of inspirational books in your local library - check one out.
Then, begin to reach out by becoming involved in your
community somehow. Joining in social or environmental group
activities can be very supportive for some people.
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Positive Prevention
Our bodies can tell us when we are doing, thinking or
believing something incorrectly through discomfort, tension
and illness. Some of the time, it's all three yelling at
once! If only we would listen, we then could avoid costly
down-time. Wouldn't be better to prevent than going this
far? Fortunately, we CAN monitor and manage our internal
feedback by altering our beliefs, thoughts, and acts. We can
do this through education, appropriately releasing our
repressed emotions positive reinforcement, quiet
contemplation, relaxation, etc.
Positive thinking has been medically proven beneficial.
So - take some time every day for doing whatever puts you in
a positive, optimistic frame of mind. Also, your diet may be
insufficient in the B vitamins. A lack of these
"brain-feeding" nutrients can trigger depressive, negative
episodes, according to research in orthomolecular medicine.
For more detailed information, read "Body, Mind, and B
Vitamins," by Ruth Adams and Frank Murray.
Even if we relaxed 5 minutes twice daily we could lower
our heart rates and calm our minds sufficiently to at least
relax our " worry muscles". By far, relaxation is the single
most powerful prevention technique! There are many to choose
from. One of the best ways to relax is Dr. Herbert
Benson's. It can be found in his book "Your Maximum Mind."
Or, right here, for a simplified version of his wonderful
progressive relaxation technique:
Beginning with your feet, say to yourself: " My feet are
now beginning to relax. I am now relaxing my feet. My feet
are TOTALLY relaxed." Then move up to your calves,
thigh...you get the picture, until you've covered every part
of your body. When you get to your head say: "I am now
relaxing my forehead, I am now relaxing my entire head." Now,
I will relax my mind, etc. Repeat the phrase 2-4 times.
Use this powerful technique at least once a day. This
one works well for getting to sleep quickly. It can be done
in 2-3 minutes. However, it's most effective when you take
5-10 minutes. A simplified version is to close your eyes (if
in a bank line or waiting room, leave eyes open - if more
comfortable), take a deep in breath expanding the stomach
while saying "I am." On the out breath, say: "relaxed,"
"peaceful," "courageous," "adventurous," "worthy," or
whatever word or phrase works best for you.
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Worry - Americans' Favorite Pastime!
Around 13 million Americans spend MOST of their day
worrying! Now, that's a lot of worry. What a waste of
time and energy! Worry is based on fear of what "could" and
"might" happen. And, what we worry about usually never
occurs. But does that stop us from indulging in this useless
habit? Absolutely not! We must actually enjoy it. After
all, it's so familiar - just like an old friend. This is one
friend we could do without! For those of us who really want
to let go of this habit, here are some suggestions:
1. Set aside around a 1/2 hour a day to worry. During this
time, identify your specific concerns. For some, this may be
too much time, for others, not enough! You will find that you
will want to waste less and less time worrying. Ask yourself
quality questions, ones which you can answer constructively.
You may actually solve problems, but at least, confronting
your worries with organized, logical thinking may make even
big problems seem smaller.
2. If you find yourself worrying outside your designated
worry time, quickly throw yourself into a positive or
constructive action as a replacement activity.
3. If you are worrying outside your worry time and can't seem
to bury it in other activities, redirect your non-specific
worrying into focusing on and finding SOLUTIONS!
4. Create a "worry list." One way to deal with your worries,
is to write them down. This is a very effective way to get
them out of your head. Date this list and file it. A few
days later, take a look at it. How many of these issues are
still fretting about? Repeat this a week later, and again,
in a month. So, what will this show you? More than likely,
that none of them were worth worrying over. In fact, most of
the issues will no longer be an issue!
This technique will actually help you re-pattern the way
you deal with problems. Then, when dealing with future
issues, you will probably be expecting "the best" rather than
the "worst."
Here's another worry-busting technique:
1. When mentally tense, choose an animal - a favorite pet or
exotic animal - that you are especially fond of. Or, create
a fantasy animal.
2. Get comfortable, close your eyes, take three full, slow
breaths to help relax your body and mind.
3. Visualize your animal's color, shape, size and texture.
See and FEEL yourself in beautiful and peaceful surroundings,
like the beach, mountains, a private wooded glen next to a
softly gurgling creek. See yourself walking toward your
animal friend. As soon as you think your friend can hear
you, ask your animal the question you most need the answer
to.
Your animal will be a vehicle to access your most
creative solutions and deepest feelings around your question.
Sometimes, the answer will come instantly, other times, it
will take a little longer. Perhaps you will nrrd to repeat
this exercise several times before an answer appears - and
that is O.K.! Wben is does come, trust the first answer
that pops into your mind. How will you know if this is the
correct answer? You are the one who wrote the script - true?
So, when all of your mental wrestling has got you
pinned to the mat, talk it over with your goldfish or your
boa constrictor - and say goodbye to your worries!
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There is a Solution
Yes, there IS a solution. It's simply a misdirection of
our imagination. It's also healthy concern gone awry. By
learning to control our thinking we can put worry in its
proper place and be cheerful instead of gloomy.
Worry can be seen as a result of inappropriately channeled
energy. This way we can see it as a potentially powerful
source of good. One remedy is to accept certain situations
as part of your life and learn to handle them by redirecting
the energy into productive channels. Another is to honestly
search ourselves and see if we might be wanting to control
others with our worry.
Ultimately, we must let go of unhealthy "concern" for
loved ones. We then may find that they do have all the
resources necessary to meet their challenges and overcome
them. All the worry in the world will not help them to do
that! When it comes down to it, we must learn to trust
others abilities to handle their own lives - no matter how
impossible their situation might appear to us. It might be
wise to apply the same to ourselves and our situation. I
once heard that help is the sunny side of control.
Financial worries are real enough and can contribute to
anxiety. One way to solve them - if we are already using our
resources to the best advantage - is to act on Thoreau's
words of wisdom: "Simplify, simplify." He learned that by
paring his needs down to the minimum he was able to live life
to its fullest extent. He was undistracted by cares brought
on by striving to satisfy greedy desires.
Ask yourself, "How many THINGS can I do without?" Unless,
of course you WANT to be one of those statistics that
literally worries themselves to death seeking material
possesions, thinking they will insulate themselves against
the imagined hardships that may lie ahead. Remember, worry
will never solve - it will only dis-solve. It will dissolve
your strength - the very strength you will need to remedy the
situation.
Much of worry is rooted in self-pity. Often this pity
will try to hide behind a claim of being concerned for
another. This is an attitude we must change quickly. It can
drive us deeper and deeper into a vicious cycle of worry,
depression and ultimately paralyze our ability to act. At
this time it is essential to stop seeing ourselves at the
center of existence. It is now time to come out of our
cocoon of isolation.
Time to turn our thoughts and open our hearts to others
and come to realize our true place as members of a family,
local and global community. One way to do this is to involve
yourself in something you love doing. Be it through work or
play. You can play the piano or paint. Your worries may
then become insignificant and petty when immersed in the
harmony of music and in the presence of art.
"It is not work that kills men, it is worry. Work is
healthy; you can hardly put more on a man than he can bear.
Worry is rust upon the blade." - Henry Ward Beecher.
Worry not only "muddies" your mind, it can also lead to
chemical imbalances, depression and reduced mental alertness.
An accumulation of worry can actually physically degenerate
your brain. This can cause mental dullness and a gradual
memory loss.
Also, numerous studies have proven that our immune system
can be adversely affected by worry. The upshot of this is
that positive thinking benefits and strengthens our immune
system. Our thoughts can create wellness or "dis-ease."
In an experiment, cancer patients were shown photos of
immune helper cells whose job is to overtake invading cells
such as cancer. Upon learning that these helper cells
existed and then, by visualizing them as internal allies they
could exercise control in overcoming the disease, their
number of "helper cells" actually doubled!
One child with a deadly tumor was taught to imagine his
white blood cells gathering around the tumor - like snow
falling on a rock. In a matter of months, the tumor
disappeared.
In Gawler, Australia, a veterinarian had a similar story.
He cured himself of a so-called fatal bone cancer. He later
claimed, "The cry of anguish that creates disease is a cry
for love...LOVE is the appropriate response, and it works
100% every time."
Loving OURSELVES and being in charge of our lives will
strengthen our immunity. It can also inhibit immune system
weakening chemicals from reaching destructive heights.
Medical doctors and researchers have found that this attitude
of love for "self" is what motivates a person to get well and
stay well.
A loving attitude can heal or prevent serious conditions
and diseases. It can also dramatically enhance your everyday
health. It may even give you more days to live.
A man on the Big Island of Hawaii was hit by a truck
while riding his bicycle. Seriously injured in one knee and
an ankle, he refused an ambulance. He insisted on having his
friends take care of him, instead. These faithful and loving
friends brought him to a cabin in the forest where they fed
him local fruits and other food, took care of his every need,
kept him involved in conversation, and did a lot of
listening. After a few weeks, he could walk again. He
walked to the hospital and had x-rays taken. It turns out
that his knee had been broken, and his ankle was crushed.
They wanted to admit him for surgery, but, he refused and
walked home. Within a few more weeks, he was completely
healed. No evidence of his injury remained!
Listening is a form of love. Dr. Candace Pert, in her
research with cancer patients, found that REALLY hearing what
they had to say made the difference. In three cancer wards
the entire staff were trained to just listen to their
patients - nothing else. The recovery rate in those wards
was three times higher than it was in any other ward.
On the other hand, not feeling loved, listened to, or
appreciated, can create toxic hormones and cause them to
flow throughout our entire system.. High readings of these
chemicals can lead to cholesterol build-up and heart
problems, and can lower the antibody activity that protects
us against tumors and foreign invaders. Also, a sense of
helplessness and isolation, can depress our immune system and
decrease our energy level and resistance to illness. Feeling
a need to dominate and control others creates stress, which
can later adversely affect the immune system. It has also
been scientifically implied that a hostile, cynical,
mistrusting attitude could contribute to hardening of the
arteries and coronary disease.
Sometimes we incorrectly perceive that we are trapped in
a disruptive, no choice work or life situation. This is a
false perception! We do have a choice - ALWAYS!! One way out
of this is to tell yourself, "I am CHOOSING to CHOOSE." Then,
begin to consider your options and generate possibilities for
yourself. (Please note: see the book "One-brain," listed in
"Suggested Reading" for further explanation. Also, after
clear on what you want, use the intention technique discussed
a few chapters ahead.)
For instance, selling products which you do not believe
in can be profitable financially, but very costly in other
ways. In this situation, your stress level can soar while
your self-esteem can dive to basement level. If it is
selling or marketing you enjoy and are very skilled in, look
around for other products you would be proud to represent.
If you are unhappy with what you do, you owe it to
yourself to look in another direction. Expand your horizons.
What would you like to be doing? What do you do best? What
interests you? What would your dream career "look like?" If
you had a choice, which you do, what would you rather be
doing? What kind of life do you want? What are your dreams?
How will you finance them?
Consider taking the courses you may need to gain
experience in your new field. Perhaps you can pursue an
apprenticeship or start a home-based business in your spare
time. You may consider a career in holistic health. There
are many relatively short term courses that end in
certification. These include: massage, acupressure,
hypnotherapy, touch for health, NLP Practitioner training,
etc.
A high-stress component in the lives of many workers is
commuting. Most of us would rather stay home, avoiding the
rush hour, inclement weather and the confines our our
automobiles. Wouldn't it be great if we could stay at home?
Home-business looks promising for now and in the future
according to trend analysts John Naisbett, Faith Popcorn, the
Small Business Administration and others. They are reporting
on trends that spell SUCCESS for the small, "green"
(environmentally responsive) oriented business person
involved in fitness, natural health, vitamins, green foods
such as spirulina and blue green algae, herbs, alternative
medicine, longevity, environmental products, network
marketing, personal growth and anything to do with getting
healthier mentally and physically.
Healthy is wealthy. The healthy home = the healthy
future! One trend is called cocooning, in which people stay
at home more, doing their shopping from catalogs rather than
spending time trying to find a parking space at the mall.
People now are wanting to get off the fast track and cash
out. They would rather spend more time at home than in their
car. People want to pursue their hopes and dreams. And,
becoming a home-based entrepreneur is oney way to do it!
We are now seeing the value in using every minute well.
Earn while you learn - there is no time to waste! Also, a
trend toward looking for more quality than quantity. More
and more people will become socially, personally,
environmentally aware. This is the backside of the excess
and greed of the 80s.' Before they'll buy, they will want to
buy into. Green products such as spirulina and algae willl
be very popular. Other green products and companies will get
a lot of business, also.
Another trend is information handling. With the vast
numbers of people now on earth, there is a tremendous market
for handling information about and for those people. Home
computers are great tools for developing information bases,
catalogs, and servicing mail-order business. All of this is
easy to start compared to many other businesses such as
retail stores.
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Create The Life You Want
As we discussed earlier, the body is the factual result
of all the intentions (thoughts and feelings) you've ever
had. With this knowledge, we can decide specifically what is
that we want. For example, would you like to be more
relaxed, have more energy, better relationships, more money,
improved health, increased creativity and peace of mind? You
can have want you want - through a process known as
"conscious intention."
Here's a way to do it:
1. Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down.
Use your favorite way to relax.
2. Identify the outcome you want. See internally or say
aloud the outcome you desire. Be Specific. Keep it simple.
3. Do this without effort or push.
4. Feel and know that you will get what you want.
5. Any fears or anxieties will get in the way of you having
what you want. They could completely cancel out the desired
outcome. Or, at best, it will lessen its effectiveness.
6. Release attachment to the results. Again, be sure that it
will come about!
7. Keep yourself aware and open to information that comes
from inside or outside of you. Realize that you are the
originator of these messsages.
Look for results other than just the material and obvious
ones. Let it come to you in ways you have not thought of.
They may be superior to your original intention. Also, if
your intentions are unclear, you may attract something other
than you want. So, it is extremely important to be crystal
clear before you intend. When you ask - you WILL get it!
Look for results from unexpected places and people!
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Steps Toward Relaxation
Some people handle stress very well. At other times,
these same people find peace of mind nearly impossible to
obtain. Often times, we let strong, reactive emotions get
the best of us. Relaxing is very useful. However, it is
just a temporary "fix." Whereas management of your thoughts
and emotions will help you to stop overreacting and face
adversity rationally.
There are varied causes of stress. It could be
environmental, personal or work related. The way you
interact with family, friends, and co-workers also
contribute. Most importantly, the way you feel about
yourself may be increasing your stress level more than you
realize. Low self-esteem can influence you to perceive things
differently than if you had a healthy, balanced view of
yourself.
Our degree of stress is depends on how we are perceiving
the event or situation. What could be a very stressful
situation for one could be a laughable matter to another. It
is very individual.
We are also very sensitive to our physical surroundings.
Too much heat or cold, improper light (fluorescent lighting
has been known to cause headaches and irritability), noise
and toxins in the carpeting and building materials greatly
affect us. Crowded, badly organized offices lacking storage
space can be stressful. Even colors, furniture styles or
materials can alter moods. Too many negatives at once
can pull you down. To get up again ask yourself these
questions:
1. Search yourself for causes. List everything you can think
think that you are perceiving to be anxiety-provoking.
2. Sort out the issues. Look at them separately. One at a
time. Otherwise you will go into overwhelm and not do
anything.
3. Decide what you can and cannot control. Some things,
especially people are out of your realm of control. You may
need to change your attitude. Or you might try looking at
the situation, circumstance or issue from a different angle.
4. Get your priorities straight. Then, design a step-by-step
plan to reach your goals. Be sure that your goals are
realistic, short-term, and within your reach.
5. Come up with at least three "baby" steps that you can take
take today to accomplish your primary goal. These little
stepps will build a staircase directly to your goals.
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Some Simple Stress Reducers:
* Invest in a good, firm mattress. Do you know that you will
spend nearly 220,000 hours of your life in bed? That's
one-third of your life. Sleep better, and you will not only
alleviate stress, you will live better. Quality sleep** is
necessary to feel alert and relaxed. You'll also be a little
more pleasant in the morning if you've had a good night's
sleep! Here's some more tips on how to catch all the z's you
need:
* Stay awake during during the day. This will decrease the
quality of your nighttime sleep.
* Stop taking in caffeine in all forms after lunch.
* Create a peaceful, clean and comfortable atmosphere in your
bedroom.
* Keep worry out of the bedroom - this is supposed to be your
place of rest - your haven.
* Have a regular bedtime routine.
* Read or do some repetitive activity. Keep the T.V. and
radio off.
* Take a long, hot bath before sleepy time. A bath soothes
and unwinds a tense body and mind.
* Picture monotonous images and count them - this may bore
you to sleep!
* Have a massage. If you feel uncomfortable about going to
a stranger, ask a friend or family member rub your neck,
shoulders and feet. I have yet to see statistics of the
medical value of massages, however, I do know that they are
therapeutic. Use fragrant oil. Aromas can relax your mind
and body.
* Begin a new hobby. It is very soothing to busy your hands
with something that has nothing to do with work. Find a few
hobbies that fit your finances and enjoy them thoroughly! You
could, I'm sure find pleasure in many free activities, also.
How about bird watching or watching your fish swim around in
the tank, talking to your bird or cuddling with your pet
or...
* Do a simple relaxation technique - The "progressive" one,
or do the following when tense:
Relax your shoulders and your eyebrows. If you remember
to relax just these two areas, you'll be well on your way to
being you relaxed natural self under all conditions. Mental
tensions land in your shoulders and eyebrows areas first. In
the beginning you'll have to remind yourself frequently.
After awhile the relaxation response will automatically kick
in. Here's what to do: While driving, ever time you come to
red light or stop sign or traffic jam, check you shoulders
and eyebrows.
If really tense, do some face and shoulder scrunches.
First, breathe deeply in and raise you shoulders to your ears
while tightening the muscles there and hold for 3 seconds.
Then, release rapidly with a long exhale and sigh. Now while
breathing deeply, tense your forehead, paying attention to
the eyebrows, hold for 3 seconds. Repeat three or more times
until relief is felt. While you're at the office or out and
about, observe the point between other's eyebrows. Is it all
wrinkled up tight? This can cue you into relaxing yours if
needed.
* Breathe 3-4 deep breaths at least three times a day.
* Exercise and eat healthy foods. One day a week, eat only
vegetables and fruit. Be sure everything is fresh, raw and
if possible, organic. If you must, eat some protein. Cooked
whole grains like brown rice or millet would be wise choices.
Whole grain toast or crackers would be fine, too. Many
have found that chopping up veggies for salad and the extra
chewing from the fruits and vegetables seems to somehow
soothe and reduce their stress levels.
* PLAY! Nothing can relax your mind like having fun and
being silly. Make up a list of twelve things you can do that
cost five dollars or less (or zero). Choose one or more
everyday. (My husband enjoys buying jigsaw puzzles at garage
sales then putting them together to see if they have all
their pieces.)
* Share your feelings with a spouse, romantic partner or
friend.
* Focus on the positive.
* Look forward to the time when life will be easier.
* Take action when you can.
* Channel stressed, anxious energy into something
constructive.
* To smooth rough edges, put on some music like Pachelbel's
"Cannon in D," Bach's "Air on the G String," Haydyn's "Cello
Concerto in C," and Debussy's "Claire de Lune." Or other
music that has a regular beat - no pitch extremes and and
overall harmonious feel to it.
* Learn to laugh.
* Take time out each day for you! Find ways to stretch your
time. Listen to books-on-tape, self-improvement, or language
tapes while driving, bring a book and a writing pad and pen
so you can read and write while waiting in line or for an
appointment. Enlist the help of roommates, friends or family
members to help you with the not-so-fun chores.
* Be gentle with yourself. Cultivate love and compassion for
for "self."
* Learn to be your own best friend. Stop putting yourself
down. Relax your grip. Loosen up! Accept compliments and
praise graciously. And most of all, go easy on yourself.
* Happiness begins within you. It is up to you to create
your own happiness.
* Take more interest in YOUR OWN needs. You'll have much
more to give when you do. And, you'll do it without
resentment.
* For those of you with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder),
stay outside as much as possible, especially during the
morning, keep your curtains open and look outside often. When
its cloudy, turn on bright lights. Consider taking your
vacation in the winter. get out a lot during the winter. Go
to the movies, the theater, art shows, visit friends,
anything to get out. Exposing yourself daily to
full-spectrum fluorescent light (find these at your local
discount or garden supply store), which is a lot like
sunlight, can help cure SAD.
* Look outside yourself - care about others.
* Straighten out your priorities.
* Give yourself plenty of time - don't pressure yourself.
* Be creative - write, express yourself in some way!
* Complete a task that gives you satisfaction.
* Compliment and praise yourself.
* Take a candlelight bubble bath. Or, put a few drops of
your favorite fragrance or therapeutic oil such as lavender
or rose where you'll notice it.
* Cuddle and stroke your pet. Studies prove that doing
this lowers blood pressure and reduces stress, anxiety and
depression. It also alleviates loneliness.
* Cuddle and stroke your humans!
* Do what you can for yourself and do it NOW! Quit putting
your life off. If you don't live it, who will?
* Stop fooling yourself that you are or can be perfect!
* Give up being a victim and feeling that you have no choice.
* Learn to accept mistakes as just mistakes, not proof that
you are a horrible person that is incapable of doing anything
"right." Mist takes are just missed takes. Sometimes, it
takes a few takes before we "get it!"
* Keep events in perspective. Distance yourself between what
actually "happens" and your emotional reaction to it.
* Stop raising frustrations to the crisis level. Most of
them are irritations - treat them that way and you'll find
that even the grayest days will take on a rosier hue! My
husband used to get very upset if his computer printer paper
jammed - now he simply unjams it and continues without
comment or concern.
* Watch children playing and laughing. Catch their spirit of
wonder and adventure.
* Use positive self-talk on a daily basis. See and FEEL the
happy, whole, prosperous, etc. you.
* Instead of saying "I'm so tired," say, "I'm relaxed after a
very busy day." Say, " I know what I'm going to do," instead
of, "Why don't they do something about it?"
* Since your brain tells your body how to act, think the most
uplifting thoughts you can imagine.
* Cut down on fatiguing activities.
* Give yourself time to contemplate.
* Smile and share it.
* Play with your grandkids.
* Play with your kids.
* Play with your loved ones
* And, if no one's around, play alone!
* Spend happy times with loved ones.
* Listen to your body.
* Think happy, upbeat thoughts.
* Be in the present moment.
* Enjoy recreation instead of just pursuing it as if it were
something to accomplish.
* While enjoying leisure time, practice not thinking about
getting back to your job or project.
* Refrain from filling your off-work hours with a second
addiction like too much food, wine or too much T.V. or
exercise.
* Stop pushing and rushing around - you'll only make more
mistakes, or create "accidents."
* Remember, slow is beautiful.
* And, BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE!!
Here's two simple ways to relax your emotions:
1. Breathe in harmony, breathe out irritation, breathe in
peace, breathe out anger, breathe in enthusiasm, brewathe out
frustration, breathe in love, breathe out fear...
2. This can be done in a bathroom, office, cab, airplane,
while waiting in line, anywhere:
Breathe in and exhale slowly four times while focusing
on whicher part of you is the most tense. Feel the tension
melting away like butter in a saute pan. On each succesive
bbreath, let go of more and more tension. See and feel that
butter melting. If you know of another visualization will
work better for you, use it instead.
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Saying No Can Prevent Stress
By learning how to say no you can save yourself a lot of
discomfort and the fatigue of doing too much. Here are a few
friendly and reasonable ways to say no:
* Put it on an impersonal basis.
* Make it clear that you'd like to say yes.
* Show that you have given the request serious consideration.
* Say no by helping the person say no to her-himself.
* Say no by showing that the request isn't reasonable.
* Say no in the kindest, warmest way you can.
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Relaxation Technique
Here is a simple, yet powerful relaxation technique given to
me by Dr. Paul Bray of Jacksonville, Oregon:
Just before falling asleep at night, tell yourself
precisely how you want to sleep and how you want to feel when
you wake up in the morning. For example: "I will have a
restful, sound sleep tonight, all stress and tension will
melt away. I am now relaxed and I will wake up refreshed and
energized." Yes, it is that simple! If done with a strong
intention, it works every time. for a variation, ask for
what you want (if you don't know what that is, ask your
subconscious to reveal your true wants and desires to you,
and ask to have the answer upon awakening. It may take 3 or
4 nights of asking before the answer surfaces.) what your
life purpose is, etc. Put your subconscious to work. You may
get some answers!
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Greater Comfort For Flyers
If you fly often, help to prevent jet lag by changing
your bedtime three nights before you fly. If traveling east,
go to sleep one hour earlier for each time zone you'll be
crossing. If traveling west, go to bed one hour later for
each zone crossed. Eat protein-rich foods for breakfast and
lunch three days prior to leaving. Eat lots of carbohydrates
for dinner. The next day, eat fruit, broth-based soups,
vegetables, salads and dry whole-grain toast and crackers.
The third day, eat the same as on the first day. (Consult
with your health practitioner on this and any diet matter.)
It's best to avoid all caffeine. Many sodas, teas and
chocolate contain caffeine. At least, limit your intake of
coffee, tea, and some sodas between 3:00 and 5:00 P.M. all
three days. Also, eat less sugar. When you arrive, eat a
protein-rich breakfast and lunch, and a high carbohydrate
dinner. While flying, avoid sleeping pills, alcohol,
caffeine and salt. Drink plenty of water and juices to avoid
dehydration as the air inside a jet is very drying. If you
arrive during the day, spend some time outside. Attempt to
get as many hours of daylight as the number of crossed time
zones.
NOTE: Taking extra B and C vitamins may reduce jet lag
symptoms, also.
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The Healing Power Of Laughter
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Everyone knows that laughter brings a short-term feeling
of well-being. The ancient Greeks believed laughter was an
essential part of the healing process. Research has recently
proven that laughter also has a powerful long-term effect.
Not only is it a great way to lift your spirits, but it can
also increase blood circulation, stimulate digestion, lower
blood pressure and prompt the brain to release endorphins and
other compounds that reduce pain and give you a feeling of
well-being.
Laughter can teach by showing us basic truths about life
and our society and help us to release our repressed
emotions. Having a good laugh can heal, relax and renew us.
Laughing and having a sense of humor are probably the most
powerful healers in existence. Laughter distracts your
attention, changes your attitude and outlook on life. It
relaxes tensions and soothes nerves. Laughter and humor may
even keep your immune and cardiovascular systems strong.
Life seems to require laughter. Otherwise, we find
ourselves drowning in our own seriousness. Incorporate
good-natured humor in business meetings, memos and
conversation. Humor helps to develop trust, sell ideas and
strengthen relationships. It's important to keep humor
upbeat and positive. Cynical laughter is counterproductive.
Let it be celebratory - not derogatory. Of course, there are
some situations that are not suitable for laughter. Put a
laugh in your belly whenever possible - and it's possible
more often than you think!
Besides - it's easier to smile than to frown. It only
takes 17 muscles to smile and 43 to frown. Laughter can help
you not react to minor irritations. There is always a funny
angle. Find the humor in your plight. Laughter will also
relax tense muscles. There is mounting evidence that
laughter helps people cope with serious illness. Studies
also show that humor is equally powerful in the prevention of
disease. So laugh your fears and anxieties away today!
Dr. Norman Cousins was suffering from progressive
paralysis. He literally laughed himself to health! He
checked into a hotel room, and watched Candid Camera and Marx
Brother's videos. His doctor visited daily and administered
massive doses of Vitamin C. Within two weeks, his
"irreversible" and progressive collagen disease had
substantially improved! Later, he went on to realize total
health. To learn more about Dr. Cousins' pioneering work,
read his "Anatomy Of An Illness."
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